Apologies

True forgiveness lies not in your regretful thoughts, but way beyond. To yourself, your ego is your identity. For example, I hate Bush. It is not you that hates Bush; it’s your ego. It wants to be released, to become your skin. But those who become aware that your true identity is in fact the Aliveness inside of you, are the ones who truly feel. (A great book to read about the Aliveness inside of you is A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose by Eckhart Tolle.)


What is the difference between a true apology and a mere sorry? It doesn’t matter how big the problem is - a simple sorry never fixes it. Honestly, I believe that no problem is ever fixed between two people, no matter what the relation, because it is always mentioned again later in life. This may cause a more severe argument. You never get over something, unless it’s the flu, or you have amnesia. It always comes back into your thoughts.

A true apology comes not from that one s word, but from inside of you, where the Aliveness lies. If you truly resent what happened, no matter who is at fault, you will feel the need to apologize. It doesn’t matter what kind of person you are; if you truly regret what happened, you will apologize.

This apology is never delivered as I’m sorry, or can we just forget all about it, but instead in a thought-about way – poetic, if you will. The words and the thoughts rush to your head like blood, and you know right then that you have to step up to the plate and apologize. If you’re truly sorry, you know you will never be able to forget about it. Instead, you can overcome it.

If it sounds stupid to you at this point, you have never felt true regret. There will be arguments between you and others in the future – no doubt about it. Perhaps sometime in the future you will feel true regret and you will want to apologize, whether it’s to yourself, to a peer, or to Whomever you believe to be your God. Whoever it is, if it is a true apology, they will accept it. Humans have a neural sense for other humans' feelings. Some read it better, but all humans feel something inside. Some may have let that true identity out completely (as in they completely got rid of their ego) and let these feelings wander. Are you up for tearing off that skin of ego?